How to Get A Guy’s Attention in 5 Simple Steps

You’ve noticed a guy

He very much has your attention.

And now you want to get his.

Maybe, he’s a guy you work with or see regularly on the train.

Perhaps, he’s a friend of a friend or a man you often see at the bar.

Or maybe it isn’t even any particular guy, but you’re sick and tired of getting approached by only the creepiest guys in the club, and for once, would like to get the attention of the hot guy you’d actually be interested in meeting.

Whatever your circumstances, the bottom line is, you’re not getting the proper (romantic) attention of the guy (or guys) you want it from. And you’re tired of it.

It’s an incredibly frustrating and disempowering experience having a guy around that you’re interested in and, yet, who’s attention you are seemingly unable to attract. This is especially so, if it’s happening every day, and you’re potentially putting off other guys on the ‘hope’ that, one day, you’ll come up on his radar.

“When you catch a fleeting glance with a guy then look away, most guys will either assume A) You were bored, B) You were looking for your boyfriend, or C) There is something wrong with his shirt”

The good news is, this particular area is one of the most personally fulfilling and empowering to master. Though it takes some time and effort, when you finally succeed, it literally gives you the freedom and power to meet any guy you want at any time. The confidence you gain from achieving these skills are far reaching. It pumps your self-esteem through the roof and naturally attracts high-quality guys into your life. In fact, this topic is so important that I make it the focus of my first live workshop with any new client. We literally head out live into venues and practice the skills I’m about to discuss.

So, here’s the 5 simple, but powerful, tools at your disposal that you can use right now to get the attention of the guys you want.

1. Get him to notice your general presence

 

Getting his attention starts with him realizing you exist. If he hasn’t done that, there’s not much point, yet, that you read the rest of the article. How you dress, and more importantly, how you talk and interact with others are going to play a massive part as to whether or not you even come up on his radar. If the guy whose attention you’re interested in doesn’t know you exist, stay tuned. I’m currently writing and article “How to get a guy to notice you” to be published in the next few weeks.

2. Use those eyes

They are your single best weapon for meeting men, the greatest flirting tool you have in your entire showing-him-you’re-interested arsenal.

And yet, for what they are, so few women know how to use them.

You can communicate more core emotion with your eyes than you ever can speaking. Men shudder at the thought of a scolding glare from a women and dream every day of the look she gives when she wants him to take her. Your eyes can communicate love through hate and everything in between. But for the purposes of today, you just want to learn to communicate one thing

“I’m interested. Come over here.”

Few women know how to actually do this. For most, using their eyes means catching a fleeting bit of eye contact with him and then wondering why he hasn’t come over… and assuming it was because he just wasn’t interested (hint: rarely true).

What these women are failing to understand is this.Blog Eyes

Men are stupid.

Actually, that’s not quite true. Stupid might be the wrong word. ‘Blissfully oblivious and unaware’ might be more accurate when it comes to reading women’s signals.

When you catch a fleeting glance with a guy and then look away, most guys will either assume.

A) You were bored

B) You were looking for your boyfriend, or;

C) There is something wrong with his shirt

I’m not joking ladies.“That woman wants me to come over” is about 18th on his list of possible reasons as to why you looked at him.

Not only that, approaching for a guy is really scary. It’s important to understand this, because it will raise your awareness of just how obvious you have to make your invitation signals to get him to overcome his fear. Most guys (without alcohol) won’t even approach a girl in a nightclub, where it is socially acceptable, let alone a gym, a supermarket, or on the street.

Men have been programmed, neurologically, for thousands of years to fear approaching women. To hesitate frequently and pick our times. For hundreds of generations, entire communities consisted of small tribes, containing less than 100 people, and that meant less than 10 women as healthy young single options for a man’s entire life. As such, men learned to pick their moments, because one wrong move, and all 10 women in that tribe could find out what a douche he was, and he’d be out of luck for life.

You want to learn to communicate one thing. “I’m interested. Come over here.”

For this reason, tell almost any sober guy to approach a girl he doesn’t know (especially, if she’s with her friends), and he’ll freezeup, get scared, and refuse. I’ve seen numerous male strippers literally baulk at the idea of approaching a girl in the shops on an average day. And they’re strippers! How do you think it is for the average guy?

Thus, for most men, eye contact has to be far more obvious than you probably ever realised. When I coach eye contact with women, they often feel ‘uncomfortable’ when I get them to hold it for as long as it takes to get through to the guy. But this is exactly the kind of eye contact that gets you noticed! 3-4 seconds of rock solid eye contact (this is a really long time; try staring into a friend’s eyes for 3-4 seconds!) on a guy that is walking and a full 2-3 seconds on a guy standing still is a good number. This process often has to be repeated again 5 minutes later, because as I mentioned, men are stupid and rarely get the memo the first time. Hopefully, once you’ve repeated yourself, the thought of, “Oh, hey, I think that girl wants me to come over???!” eventually, enters his head.

3. Smile

 

In addition to eye contact, a close runner up in importance in getting a guy’s attention is your smile. Remember, guys naturally fear the approach. It’s bred into us. But the more we feel you want us to approach and the more we feel we aren’t going to get rejected cold on our asses, the more likely we are to actually do it.

Blog SmileA smile to a guy is an invitation. A green light. It says, “If you come over here and have the balls to at least try your luck, I’m not going to blow you out cold for every one to see.” Eye contact, on its own, can come off cold and even threatening. But long eye contact with a nice smile is the perfect inviting signal to make it really easy for a guy to get over his in-born hesitancies and come say hi.

Not only that, but smiling at strangers in social settings is, generally, just a good habit. Especially when you’re in an environment where you can or should potentially meet everyone (a wedding, work networking event, seminar, etc..), a smile is what makes you warm for people to approach and make friends. You’ll be the person who’s out there, introducing people and talking to everyone. And of course, if you’re meeting everyone, meeting the hottest guy there happens all too naturally!

4. Have a fun vibe to you that exudes positive energy

 

Blog Party girlThere’s nothing sexier than a girl who’s in her own world and loving it, without the need for anyone else to validate her fun. Two girls could dress the same, look the same, and both have their eye contact and smiles down-pat, but if one is overly concerned with how other people perceive her and getting guys’ attention, while the other is just having a blast, dancing around, maybe having a banter with the guys, then running off to have fun with the girls, she’s going to be the one who gets the guys’ attention. Every. Single. Time.

When a girl is in her own world, having this kind of fun, but then is able to stack a great smile and eye contact on top, she’ll turn the heads of every guy in the room. She won’t need guys’ attention; she can be herself, enjoy meeting people she doesn’t know, banter with everyone, and be sexual/playful with the guys. This all communicates incredible levels of confidence that guys will swoon for.

5. Touch

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Finally, being touchy (not just with him, but with everyone you meet!) will seal the deal when it comes to getting attention.

Touching is an innocent, but extremely, effective way to show affection and build rapport. Of course, you can also break rapport with touching (you don’t want to end up the creeper, who’s weirdly all over the guy). So as with all things, touching has to be managed in a ‘normal’, not overbearing way. Playfully punching him when he says something dumb or makes fun of you, hugging everyone around, or having a close dance with lots of different people are great examples of socially acceptable ways to touch people.

If you’re worried or unsure, the easiest way to make sure your touch isn’t weird is to make sure it’s based on something fun or exciting. Anytime the conversation spikes up, someone new comes in, a fun song comes on, or a guy teases you is a point where some form of playful touch is appropriate.

“Knowing how to get a guy’s attention literally gives you the power to meet any guy you want at any time.”

In conclusion, remember, there’s a hell of a lot more to getting attention than physical looks. Your eye contact, your smile, your energy in the room, and how you touch people will all determine the attention you get and how attractive you appear to the guy you want. Get just ONE of these down, and guys will notice you. Get 2-3 of them sorted, and you can guarantee you’ll be getting attention from guys all night. All 5? Congratulations. You now have the power to get the attention of any man you desire. Use it wisely.

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